Some people refused to understand. They had
an idea of family in their heads and they couldn’t be bothered to change it,
even if the city they lived in was one of the most progressive in the world.
They stared and sometimes even laughed. But the trick was not caring at all
about what they said or did. Moving forward and just doing your thing was
paramount in order to survive the horrible feast that was living in a suburban
neighborhood like White Pines. There were things people had to do and one of
them was having a thick skin.
Diego and Liam had moved from another city two
years ago and even after that time people still looked at them as if hey were
the weirdest people in the world. Yes, they were married to each other and yes,
they had a son called Duncan, but they often felt it that what people saw was
so much more than that. Actually, it was Diego who had to endure most of the
social pressure of the neighborhood because he was the one that stayed at home.
Liam saw some of those things but he refused to acknowledge it was serious in
any way.
Mothers specially, were vicious against Diego.
Well, at least most of them. From the first day he brought Duncan to school, he
was a topic of conversation of the group of mothers that helped with several
matters like organizing parties or fundraisers. After all, the school that
Duncan went to was a very high achieving one and it was paramount that all the
children and most of the parents got involved in some of the social crusades
that parents loved to be involved with such as feeding the poor and organizing
lavish parties to give a few bucks to a charity.
Diego wasn’t used to that. In the city they
lived in before, his life was kind of different. He had always tried to be a
writer but never really realized how hard it was. Liam tried to help him but
nothing ever worked. Then, they had the idea to adopt a child, so they did and
that was how Duncan became a part of the family. Now, the boy was nine years
old and Diego was what you would call a “house husband”, completely dedicated
to Duncan and to the new house they lived in, which was substantially larger
than their former apartment.
They were all happy, in a general way. But
Diego soon became frustrated with all the parents thing. He thought it was
quite an old fashioned idea that only women would leave their kids at school
and be the ones who helped for all the things that they needed there. He was
the only man to do so and he had done it after Liam and him argued about the
school and him not having a job and so on. He didn’t like to go to those
meeting but he felt he had to because of his responsibilities towards his son
and his husband. But even so, it was very annoying.
Most of the meetings lasted for more than an
hour and, for Diego that was excruciating. Not only because the women rarely
stayed on topic (whatever it was that they were planning in the school) but
because they always stared and asked the silliest question, just as if the last
hundred years of social progress had never reached their homes. He got asked
who was the woman in the relationship or if he felt emasculated for not having
a job. They also looked at him constantly, as if he was some kind of strange
creature walking around the downtown area.
Sometimes he skipped sessions and he had to come
up with excuses. There were times when he actually did have true excuses and
other times he just came up with something. But that didn’t matter because they
always would look at him as if he was lying and, even more annoying, as if they
pitied him for some reason. It was as if they thought he was just a poor soul
that they were helping, kind of one of those charities they loved to donate.
One day he had enough of their nonsense and just stormed out of one of the
meetings, with no explanation.
When he arrived to the house, he realized two
things: that he had to come back in a few hours for his son and that the place
they were living in was too damn big. The house looked like one of those in
which people live in commercials or something. It had a big backyard and a
front garden too. The kitchen was enormous, as was every other room in that
place. Diego didn’t like to say it but he missed his apartment from before. Not
only because it had been something his family had passed on to him but because
he felt really at home there.
In that cavernous house, he only felt at home
when Liam and Duncan were there. But Liam was always at work or busy doing
something else and Duncan was at school or at some friend’s house on Saturdays.
Only on Sundays they behave like an actual family and even then Liam was
distracted by his phone every minute and Duncan was exactly the same thing.
Diego didn’t really have any friends to distract him. He only had a couple and
rarely spoke to them because their relationship was a bit different than
normal.
When he was alone at home, which was for
several hours a day, he would clean the house by himself. He even refused to
hire a maid because he argued that it would make him turn alcoholic in five
days. So he scrubbed the floors, the toilets and trimmed the grass all by
himself. It was very hard work but he enjoyed it because at least that way he
was distracted doing something productive that maybe his family would
acknowledge. They never really did.
He decided not to return to the meetings.
However, he was surprised to realize, one day, that they had called Liam and
told him about that. And the fight that ensued was just ridiculous. He said it
was his obligation to go to those meetings and help and Diego replied he wasn’t
going to be their animal to look at anymore. He would rather feed the poor
himself than helping in those ridiculous parties. Liam said the husbands of
those women were the one doing business with them and Diego said he didn’t
care. It wasn’t his problem.
Liam said he would never understand how
working and living a good life really worked, al the thing you had to do to
make it work. Then the fight got uglier, with Diego telling Liam he knew he
never really approved of his choice of not having a job but at least he was there
every day of the week and not having meetings that took hours and not even
looking at his eyes for several days. Liam couldn’t respond to that and Diego
just turned around and left the house. He jumped into the car and drove off
without much thinking about his destination.
He used the car to think, to try and get an
idea of what it was Liam wanted from him. But he just couldn’t be that
submissive person he obviously wanted to have by his side. He wanted him to be
like all those other women and there was no way Diego would go down that road.
The fact that he wasn’t a working guy did not mean he had no integrity. When he
realized it, he was driving to the city they lived in before. It was only three
hours away so he pressed on, thinking it could be a nice idea to go back to his
real roots in a place he loved.
He arrived in the morning. Thank God, they
kept the keys in the glove box of the car. When he opened the door, a cloud of
dust escaped the apartment. They hadn’t been able to rent it, partly because of the chaos they had left in there. So, out of the blue, Diego started cleaning,
opening windows and buying products to get the place in perfect condition. When
he went to the supermarket, people greeted him. They remembered who he was from
childhood and from living there with Liam. They asked for him but he didn’t say
too much.
After a week, the place was perfect. He let
Liam know he was there and he announced to him he was going to stay there. He
actually told him that if custody were not his, he would fight for his right to
Duncan. And so it happened, months after. He got his son to live in his former
house and he noticed how much better it was for both of them. As for Liam, he
had been seeing some woman for many months, so he stayed with her in the other
town. Diego didn’t mind. He had returned home and he would never leave again.